Most of us today have built strong resilient walls around ourselves. This ‘emotional architecture’ serves to protect us from being hurt by other people. Throughout our early 20s, brick by brick, we’ve cemented these barriers to provide stability and enable us to truly discover ourselves.

Recently however, I have become increasingly aware of some of downsides of these powerful walls. Also, I have learned from some inspiring people around me – true strength lies in vulnerability. It may sound counterintuitive but it is empowering to possess the ability to share the “true you” with other people. In doing so, you are able to be honest around them, and they inturn are likely to return the favor.

Asking for and/or accepting a hand from someone, may seem like a foreign concept, but, setting aside your ego and opening the doors is essential. It may be in a shoulder to cry on or a night out with friends. It may be getting a cup of tea when you least expect it or a call in the middle of the night. It maybe with your roommate, partner, boss, brother or parent. It’s less about who or how you let someone in; and more about knowing that you are better off for having them there, by your side.

Recognizing the impact humans have on one another was a big driver of this change in my perspective. A great but unexpected example of this is prison. If you have the misfortune of being behind bars, you are among some dangerous and sketchy characters, but even there, the worst thing that could happen to you is solitary confinement: Being alone.

Connecting with one another is the most “human” part of us. Our interaction, whether spoken or unspoken, feeds our soul. It challenges us and makes us strive to go further and be better. So have the courage to share yourself and be seen for who you truly are. It is the people we share our lives with that make it truly worth living.

To be vulnerable is to be alive.