Most of us millennials could hardly believe it when we received friend requests from our parents a few years ago. Today, it is both amusing and annoying to see them dive into the world of smartphones, apps and anything technology. Full disclosure: I do not watch every video or read every forwarded message my parents send me. The list is exhaustive. However, yesterday a video my dad sent me really moved me. It was Dennis Prager’s “The Missing Tile Syndrome”. It took me on a magnificent journey of reflection and philosophical thought for which I thank both, Mr. Prager and my dad.

In the video Prager asserts, that if a single tile is missing from an otherwise perfect ceiling, we are bound to focus on it. Similarly, we tend to center all our attention on that which is missing in our lives. The missing tile for each of us may signify something different. Regardless of what it represents we shouldn’t let it impact how happy or fulfilled we are. Prager goes on to say that we can define our degree of happiness by celebrating what we have, rather than mulling over what is missing in our lives.

What Prager demands of us is simple; however, it is far easier said than done. And should it really be done? Can it be? And would it really make us happier? This is where I reclined on my imaginary armchair, sipped my imaginary glass of bourbon and began my very real journey of thought.

I’m not sure any of us really got to where we are without focusing, at least a little bit, on the missing tile. Clearly, the lack of something (physical or emotional) is what motivated us to make choices and take action. Still, it is hard to forget the low points in life when being hurt or being broke or being lonely or being unemployed was the only reality that literally took over.

The key really is striking a balance or looking at the entire ceiling all at once. Celebrating the victories while simultaneously working to replace missing tiles. Being in constant motion without forgetting to be.